Groundhog Day in California
Mikale Bendian employs a familiar strategy in the latest hearing.
There was an air of familiarity in the latest hearing between Mikale Bendian and Kristin Haynes.
This is a case from San Francisco County featuring a transgender man, Bendian, who claims that his ex-girlfriend, Kristin Haynes, has been alienating their daughter from him.
“Since {their daughter} was 7 years old, Kristin has been the alienating parent and now that {their daughter} is older, she is no longer letting the alienation affect her like when she was a young child and is not easily manipulated. {Their daughter} is estranged from Kristin due to Kristin involving {their daughter} for six years in severe parental alienation.” Bendian said in an affidavit dated June 2, 2022.
Their daughter, thirteen, had been living primarily with her mother prior to this pronouncement which was first made in March 2022.
Now, Bendian claims, this girl hates her mother so much that she refuses any visits.
The judge, Roger Chan, has allowed Bendian to control this case since March.
There is a court order which followed a four day trial which granted Haynes physical custody, but Bendian, using this very dubious parental alienation claim, has kept her in his sole custody with Chan allowing it.
The most recent hearing occurred on September 12, 2022.
Much of what was argued was mundane; however, the very corrupt and totally incompetent minor’s counsel (equivalent of a guardian ad litem) Julie Ten Eyck was relieved of her duties at this hearing.
Ten Eyck has acted much more as Bendian’s counsel, parroting just about everything he says throughout the process.
That was no different at this latest hearing. Ten Eyck claimed that her client, the girl, wanted nothing to do with her mother, hated therapy, and was thriving in her father’s care.
Bendian claims she has stability in his home. He is transgender living with a lesbian who has appeared on a television show arguing that men in chaps is something children should see. Starts approximately 2:19:00
He blames Kristin for every problem in the relationship with their daughter, arguing that she engaged in verbal and psychological abuse while alienating him; it was this abuse, Bendian argued, which has caused the rift.
“Own it Kristin,” he stated in the hearing.
But a four-day trial held earlier this year found no such thing.
Here is where the court is in an untenable position.
The court has found Kristin has not done anything to warrant not seeing her daughter; in fact, a court order gives her physical custody, but the court has allowed Mikale Bendian to keep this girl, called child O, since March due to his uncorroborated allegation that Kristin had been alienating her.
The court has appointed a reunification therapist, Amy Goldman, whose appointment he has extended for at least six months to fix the non-existent problem.
The way to fix this is to demand that Mikale Bendian follows the court order and to have child O go back to her mother when it is her scheduled custody time.
Instead, he has indulged Bendian’s ludicrous allegations by ordering court appointed therapy.
Bendian is typical of the sort of person- despite being a transgender- who manipulates the court.
In fact, all throughout the most recent hearing, I felt as though it was Groundhog Day.
Bendian was taking a strategy I saw before: the strategy of physical abuser Bryan Alintoff.
Alintoff, like Bendian, kept his son away from his mother in violation of a court order in 2021; like Bendian, Alintoff claimed their son refused to see his mother because of perceived mental abuse by the mother and demanded, like Bendian, that the son testify to prove his point.
It appears that Bryan Alintoff took notice of Judge Dalton's bias in that hearing. Following release of my article on April 30, 2021, Bryan Alintoff has been keeping the couple's son, who is autistic, away from Rachel, despite court orders giving her custody time, including on Mother's Day which she did not spend with her son.
Rachel Alintoff has filed custodial interference charges however thus far law enforcement has not made a determination.
As a result, Judge Dalton heard a motion to enforce the previous orders and grant the custody time the orders gave, and this motion was heard on May 14, 2021.
Bryan Alintoff argued that their son saw my article and now refuses to see his mom; Mr. Alintoff claimed he's now afraid of her.
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Judge Dalton ruled that despite the court order if the boy refuses to see his mother she will not force the boy; that's in stark contrast to many other rulings from other judges who will force kids into dangerous circumstances because of court orders.
In this case, there is no danger, besides what Bryan Alintoff claims; furthermore, their son had never been afraid of his mother prior to the boy purportedly discovering this article.
Rachel Alintoff has not seen her son in more than two weeks.
Eventually, Bryan Alintoff was forced to relinquish his son and restore proper custody time. Despite his protestations, there have since been no problems when their son has spent time with his mother.
I suspect the same thing will happen here once Kristin is allowed to spend time with her daughter.
The crux of the hearing was Kristin’s request to switch custody times and to grant her holiday custody- which technically Mikale currently has- which would allow her to finally see her daughter over Thanksgiving.
Mikale treated a four-day holiday between his daughter and her mother like she would be sent into a war zone.
When Judge Chan issued his ruling, Bendian protested furiously, “This is setting up for failure here. Can we not start with something like- I cannot even get her on the phone. Why do I feel like this is going in the wrong direction? It’s not in support of {Child O}.”
Four days spent with this child’s mother in two and a half months is so bad that he’s protesting already. Yet, until March of this year, this same girl lived primarily with her mother.
Since living exclusively with him, this girl has taken this new attitude. I can’t help but think the problem is Mikale.
Mikale also mirrors manipulators of the court in another way; any scrutiny is treated as harassment. After I sent an email inquiring about how his behavior mirrored Bryan Alintoff’s, he suggested I was harassing him.
I have asked you not email me. I am asking again that you do not email me or my family. AGAIN.
im so confused, arent you against reunification therapy ? you are a walking contradiction as your friend is the one who requested it from the courts yet i get the lovely harassing emails and articles?. great investigative work.
you dont care about facts, you care about spewing bile and transphobia and also obsession over other peoples children which is a little creepy.
again, leave my family alone.…
Do not send me emails anymore. i have filed a police report in chicago for your harassment. leave me alone
I don’t think he filed a police report, but when I first contacted the corrupt Minnesota therapist Paul Reitman, he too claimed he had filed a police report.
“I am contacting the police as I have in the past this is harassment.” Reitman told me in an email on March 29, 2018. I don’t Reitman filed a police report either.
I agree with Mikale on one thing; I don’t like reunification therapy, nor do I believe that Amy Goldman will help.
She’s a bureaucrat who gets business through coercion, as in this case.
The answer to this case is simple: follow the actual court orders. Mikale violated them in March when he refused to send his daughter back after his custody time ended.
The judge, Roger Chan, allowed him to flaunt the court order while appointing Amy Goldman to fix a non-existent problem.
The problem is an arrogant woman pretending to be man, Mikale Bendian, and a judge too weak to enforce his own court orders.
Finally, Mikale is not the only person in his household to rush to accuse someone of harassment.
During the hearing, he claimed he owed his live-in girlfriend, Amber Noland, $18,000. This seemed peculiar since they lived together. When I aksed her about this, she too claimed I was harassing her.
Noland had previously headed a social media campaign trying to smear me.
Some people know how to dish it out but can’t take it.
Postscript:
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Find the previous articles in this series: Article 1, Article 2, and Article 3.
